Divorcing parents in Illinois often find it difficult to adjust to a co-parenting relationship. This is true in the most amicable of cases, but it poses a particular problem in high-conflict situations. The disputes may spill over into the child custody situation, leading to parents bad-mouthing each other to the children or undermining the custody agreement or visitation schedule. While co-parenting with a toxic former partner adds additional strain and stress, there are ways to defuse difficult situations and put the children's best interests first.
Matters involving child custody in Bloomington can easily become contentious. Parents cannot be faulted for loving their children, yet at the same time, their motives for not wanting their children's other parents to have regular access to them can often come under question. One might reasonably wonder if they have their children's best interests in mind, or are rather allowing their own personal feelings to drive their decisions. It is understandable that parents feel a great deal of emotion (both good and bad) when it comes to custody matters, but the hope is that such emotion will remain under control and not lead to potentially dangerous actions.
Getting divorced from your spouse in Illinois may leave you facing some unique challenges that must be carefully navigated to allow you to make effective long-term decisions that will better your life. One complicated factor you may be dealing with is child custody and establishing boundaries between you and your ex that still allow your children to benefit from a healthy relationship with both of their parents.
Any standard child custody case in Bloomington can be rife with complexities. Throw in the matter of jurisdiction, and a matter can suddenly become a case study in reviewing legal precedents. One can only imagine how much more complicated a case can become when questions of jurisdiction (or even "home state" affiliation) cross international boundaries. Suddenly, what may have been a case of a parent simply taking their children back to their home countries can become an international abduction that requires not only the collaboration of international legal teams, but also that of government officials.
Typically speaking, Illinois family courts will award both parties of a divorce custody of the child or children. Joint custody is the preferred custody setup, as it grants both parents equal decision-making rights and ample time with the child. Visitation, on the other hand, is one of the least favorable options.
While a divorce can certainly introduce a lot of uncertainty into your situation, one inevitability you can count is your life continuing on. That may include new personal or professional opportunities that may prompt you to relocate. This can cause pose quite a challenge to your current custodial situation. You moving away from Bloomington will impact every member of your family, from your ex-spouse potentially needing to change their expectations in terms of custody and visitation to your kids having to re-establish themselves in new neighborhoods and schools. Such complexities cause many to come to us here at the Stange Law Firm questioning what is needed to keep their relocations from becoming family catastrophes.
If you are a parent seeking to divorce your spouse, you may wonder about child custody arrangements. However, both the term and the concept are a little outdated. Rather than using the term "child custody," Illinois courts now refer to the allocation of parental responsibilities. We at Stange Law Firm believe the change is beneficial because even if communication is problematic between two parents, the new rule involves both parents in their child's life rather than determining custody and arranging for visitation.
Co-parenting is an arrangement that allows both parents to play an integral part in their child's daily life after a divorce is finalized. This form of parenting has grown in popularity in recent years as research has shown that, barring any instances of abuse, children generally do best when both parents are actively involved in their upbringing.