On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in child custody on Tuesday, January 28, 2020.
Going through a divorce in Illinois can cause pain for each ex-spouse and can leave children feeling insecure. Thankfully, there are a few strategies that co-parents can use to cope with this pain and help their children feel safe as they grow up.
Since a parent will likely spend less time with their children after a divorce, this means that they will miss out on some big moments in the children’s lives. One way that co-parents can help each other cope with this is to take pictures of these moments and share them.
In order to help children feel secure, consistency is necessary. Wise co-parents work to be unified when it comes to establishing daily routines and rules that need to be followed in both homes. This consistency will help a child feel safe and cut down on stress.
A messy divorce can cause a person to have negative feelings regarding their ex-spouse. Instead of focusing on a person’s negative qualities, it is more beneficial to focus on their good qualities. Trust is built between co-parents and their children when a person speaks positively of an ex-spouse. It’s important be aware that children often hear more than their parents realize.
Maintaining consistency involves sticking with a parenting schedule that has been laid out by the court after the divorce process. The schedule is designed with the children’s best interests in mind. However, there are times when flexibility is beneficial. For example, if a parent asks to change the schedule in order to take the children to a soccer match, this will allow the children have some fun and make good memories.
If a parent has serious concerns about a parenting schedule that has been laid out by the court, they may wonder what options are available to adjust it. An attorney may be able to answer questions about child custody modification and the steps that need to be taken to request a change.