When your marriage has come to an end, it can be difficult to prioritize your own self-care for numerous reasons. You may be so focused on seeing your divorce through to the end that you forget to take care of yourself throughout the process. It’s understandable to have constantly shifting priorities during your divorce, but if you don’t prioritize self-care, you may be left with little else. A Bloomington divorce lawyer can help you work out a plan for your divorce.

Everyone who chooses to move forward with a divorce is doing so because of their own reasons. You may have a certain breaking point unique to your own boundaries. If your spouse reaches that breaking point, even inadvertently, it can push you to pursue the end of the marriage. Your reasons are always your own. Don’t let anybody try to convince you otherwise.

When divorce becomes necessary, an experienced divorce lawyer can assist you, making sure you aren’t taken advantage of.

The Difficulties of Divorce

Regardless of whether or not your divorce is contested or uncontested, it is likely going to be a difficult and unpleasant experience. After all, you are choosing to end a marriage you likely expected to last forever. When you say your vows, you don’t intend to one day get divorced. It can be very complicated to come to terms with the end of your marriage. As you do so, you may become consumed by emotional distress that you forget to take care of yourself.

It’s okay to take care of yourself. It’s recommended that you periodically treat yourself to remind yourself of the good things that will come when this is all over. Divorces can be emotionally and mentally destructive.

Keep in mind that you will not be the only person affected by your divorce. A divorce can impact your job performance, your circle of friends, and your relationship with certain extended family members. You should be aware of the ripple effect your divorce can have.

According to information from the CDC, Illinois has one of the lowest rates of divorce in the United States, at only  1.1 per 1,000 residents as of 2022. However, the marriage rate is pretty high, with over 52% of individuals polled by the Illinois Department of Public Health (IDPH) claiming their status as married. Dealing with the aftermath of your divorce can be an emotional challenge. A local support group like DivorceCare can help you.

Coping With Divorce

It’s important to note that every divorced person copes with stress in different ways. There are numerous ways you can try to make your situation a bit lighter on yourself. Some strategies may only work for people in certain situations, but some can be quite helpful. You may want to ask your lawyer about different ways you can prioritize self-care. Here are some coping strategies that may work for you:

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s important that you try to surround yourself with a strong support system during this difficult time. There are people who want to help you, such as friends, family, and even neighbors or coworkers. The more support you have around you, the easier it may be to endure your divorce and the aftermath.
  • It may be beneficial to establish a goal for your future. When your divorce is finally over, it can be good to have something to look forward to. You can plan toward a fun vacation or reward yourself with a big purchase, such as a new home or a new car. You should have something positive to work toward so you can keep up your morale.
  • Finally, it is good to set up boundaries and enforce them when necessary. Depending on your situation, your ex may still feel like they have a place in your life. It is entirely up to you to determine if that’s true. If the answer is no, you have every right to enforce your boundaries.

FAQs

Q: Is a Divorce Lawyer Truly Necessary?

A: Yes, a divorce lawyer is necessary in your case. If your divorce is uncontested, you may not need to hire a lawyer to figure things out amicably. If your divorce is contested, the way forward may be unpredictable, and setbacks may be frequent. The right lawyer can make quite a difference as you navigate your case. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from someone who can provide it for you.

Q: Is Equitable Distribution an Effective Method for Asset Division?

A: Yes, equitable distribution is generally seen as an effective method for asset division. In Illinois, the equitable distribution model is how assets are divided in a divorce case. The court looks into many different factors of the marriage to determine how much each spouse deserves in a fair split. It’s important to note that fair doesn’t always mean equal. Your lawyer can help you receive a favorable settlement.

Q: Which Parent Will Get Full Custody of the Children?

A: There is no telling which parent will get full custody of any children. In Illinois, the court sees mothers and fathers as equal parents who are both equally responsible for raising their children. In order to determine which parent gets custody, the court needs to go through many different factors, including the financial status of each parent and the needs of the children.

Q: Is Getting a Divorce Worth the Trouble?

A: It’s up to you to determine for yourself whether getting a divorce is worth the trouble for you. Everyone gets divorced for their own reasons. No matter what your reasons are, if they are important to you, then they matter. If you believe that a divorce will right your wrongs or make you happy, you should go through with it. You may want to ask your lawyer about your options if you are initially apprehensive.

Reach Out to a Lawyer

At Stange Law Firm, we can help you put together a strong case for your divorce and represent your interests. Contact us to speak to a team member about your case.